Girls are...

They say that girls are annoying, loud, loquacious, crazy, sensitive, sulky, hard to please, finicky, a cry baby etc.
But did you try to know them really, really, really well?
Did you try to look what's behind those attitudes?
Did you try to understand her?
Or not?....

You think they're annoying when they won't stop asking you questions about your whereabouts. What you're doing as of the moment, whom you're with, if you already eat your breakfast/lunch/dinner. If you're already home or not. If they ask you those questions and wont stop asking you until you answer her questions (sometimes they'll doubt your answers) , you'll get really annoyed about her. You'll think that she's so paranoid. You'll get mad at her because she annoys the hell out of you.
But have it ever crossed your mind that she asks you those questions because she cares for you? That she thinks about you all the time?

You think that sometimes, they're too sensitive. One little wrong move, one wrong word, one broken promise (example you're 5 mins late on you're date) , they'll get mad that easily. You'll think that she's so sulky. But did you ever think that the reason why she's that sensitive is because she wants to be cuddled by you?

You think that they're hard to please, that they wont be satisfied in small gifts. That they want extravagant things. But the truth is, anything that comes from you, especially those gifts that you put all your effort to make, pleases her so much. Everything that comes from you, even the little ones makes her smile.

Yes they're loud, they're  annoying, they're sensitive but they only want what's best for their loved ones. The'y know how to love unconditionally.

They're are hard to understand, but if you really love her you'll do anything to understand her.

P.S

When they're having their monthly visitors, they're so moody. One minute she's smiling and with a glimpse of an eye she's already mad. She's hard to understand during those days. She gets mad easily. But try to understand her, because she's having a hard time. There are times that it pains her so much. Try to imagine that every month of their lives they're experiencing those hard days. Would you like to be in their shoes first before you understand her?

Stumble and Fall

Mistake    :   An error or fault resulting from defective judgement; carelessness
                   A misconception about the meaning of something; a thing incorrectly done or thought
                   Something chosen through an error of judgement; a regrettable choice.


What is mistake? It is the wrong decisions that we made. The wrong choices that we take. The wrong things that we did.

Mistakes are the result of our wrong decisions. When we act impulsively mistake will come along the way.

Making mistakes can also mean that you are doing something in your life, that you're striving to accomplish your goals.

The hardest part is admitting that you are wrong, that you've made a mistake. But it is the only way to earn the lesson behind it, admitting that you made it.

If you start blaming others or the universe, you distance yourself from any possible lesson. But if you're courageous enough to admit what you did, the possibilities of learning will come towards you.
Admission of a mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes learning possible by moving the focus away from blame and towards understanding.
Wise people admit their mistakes easily because they know that the progress will accelerates too.

But some people beg to disagree. They believe that mistakes are shameful things. They say that we should be ashamed of our failures and to do whatever we can to avoid making mistakes.
This sense of shame combined with the unavoidable setbacks when attempting difficult things explains why many people give up easily on their goals, they're not prepared for the mistakes and failures they will meet along the way when reaching their goals.

What's missing in many people's beliefs about success is the fact that the more challenging the goal, the more difficult setbacks will be. The larger your ambition, the more mistakes you'll face when reaching it.

So don't be afraid to make mistakes, stumble and fall, because most of the time, the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you'll get everything what you wish for. Maybe you'll get more than you could have ever imagined. Who knows where life will take you, the road is long. And in the end, the journey is the destination.

One is to Two

Is it really possible to love two people at the same time?
Yes it is, but the love you have for the other person weighs more than the other.

Love is both a feeling and an action. Loving two people at once is a little more complicated.
Sometimes, you just get bored or you're trying to search for an additional spice in your life. You meet somebody then you find them attractive, funny, quirky, refreshing, you find them everything your partner is not. You can call it love or lust, you can call it anything you want because at the very least, it is something. You can't deny that.

Loving two persons at the same time is like driving without knowing the direction you have to take, left turn or right turn? If you're in this kind of situation, don't always take the most alluring one, or the easy way out. Because if we do we can devoid so many things that build the strong foundation of lasting relationships.
We have to accept the fact that love is not like the love that is written in a Disney love stories. Love is sometimes hard or boring but it can also be the firmest thing we can hang onto when the rest of the world starts to shift.

The feeling of love is a simple one. The action is a little bit more complicated.

Here's a famous quote by Johnny Depp  :
" If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second. "

Contentment 101

Con-tent-ment : the state of being happy and satisfied

                         : the state of being content

Sa tagal ng inilagi mo dito sa mundo, nakuntento ka na ba?

Nakapagpasalamat ka na ba sa lahat ng meron ka?

Napahalagahan mo na ba yung mga bagay na nasa iyo na?

malamang hindi pa ...

Hindi tayo nakukuntento sa kung anong mayroon tayo kasi naka focus tayo sa mga bagay na wala sa atin. Halimbawa nalang may cellphone ka kaso 3310 lang, yung kakilala mo may iphone 5s. Maiinggit ka na nyan, wag mo sabihing hindi. Osige hindi na inggit, nagnanais na lang. Pero halos pareho lang yun. Hindi ka pa makuntento sa 3310 eh sa ayun lang ang kaya mo buti nga ikaw may cellphone yung iba nga wala.
Nagka'ipad mini kaklase mo, gusto mo ikaw mayroon din.
Nagpa'rebond kaibigan mo, gusto ikaw magpapa rebond din.
Nag Starbucks tropa mo, gusto mo ikaw din (pwede naman mag instant coffee nalang).
Kapag mainit gusto malamig, kapag malamig naman nagrereklamo pa din.
Nagka syota kabarkada mo, gusto mo ikaw din.... baka naman kapag nabuntis o nakabuntis yung kaibigan mo gusto ikaw din?

Kidding aside.....

Nature na kasi ng tao yan eh, yung hindi marunong makuntento. Laging may kulang, laging may hinahanap sa lahat ng aspeto ng buhay. Sa lagay ng panahon, sa lovelife, sa gadgets at sa kung anu-ano pa.

Dahil sa ugali nating ganito, nakakaligtaan  natin na bigyan ng pagpapahalaga yung mga bagay na meron tayo o yung mga taong nagmamahal at nagpapahalaga sa atin. Kasi nasanay na tayo sa isiping andyan naman sila, mahal naman tayo nyan kaya di tayo iiwan nyan. Pero nakalimutan mo na ba na napapagod din ang tao lalo na kung nababalewala lang din naman sya. Kahit gaano ka pa kaimportante sa kanya o kahit gaano ka pa niya kamahal kung lagi mo naman siyang binabalewala darating sa point na mapapagod din sya kasi lahat ng effort niya nasasayang lang, para lang syan nagwalis ng nakabukas ang electric fan, lahat ng effort nya napupunta lang sa wala.

Lagi kasi tayo'ng nakatingin sa mayroon ang iba kaya di natin napapansin yung mayroon tayo. Dyan na pumapasok ang inggit, ipokrito ka kung sasabihin mong hindi ka marunong mainggit.

May girlfriend/boyfriend/asawa ka na, nakakita ka lang ng gwapo o maganda lilingunin mo pa ng bongga at ang masaklap pa kasama mo yung karelasyon mo. Respeto naman dyan, di naman masamang iappreciate ang katangian ng ibang tao basta ilagay mo sa tamang lugar.

Aba eh matuto ka naman makuntento.

Kaya madalas kapag di mo napahalagahan yung nagpapahalaga sayo syempre mapapagod yun, tendency nun? Iiwan ka, kapag iniwan ka mag-sisisi ka, mang-hihinayang ka tas sasabihin mo SAYANG! tsss. Tao nga naman.

Another Chapter Begins Here...

Break up ...
Big word,
It can ruin somebody else's life.
It can break a heart into a million pieces.
It can shatter someone else's dream.

It can break you to the point that you don't even want to move on and just end everything for you to feel no more pain.
It's hard...
It's painful...

BUT! don't just look on the negative side of  breakups, try to look on the other side... to the bright side of it.
Break up is not the ending, it is the beginning of a new meaningful, adventurous, exciting chapter of your life.
Don't be upset, but it doesn't mean that you don't have the rights to feel hurt or to be sad. You can cry you heart out if you want to lessen the pain that you're feeling, just make sure that you will not cry again for the same reason.

As the saying goes "A heartbreak is a blessing from God, it's his way of telling that he saved you from the wrong one."

It only means that there is this special person that is destined for you, to take care of you, to help you, to be always be by your side through ups and downs, to cherish you, to sing for you, to make you happy, to wipe your tears when you're sad, to be your partner in crime, to love you unconditionally, and if you're lucky enough... he/she will be the person that you'll spend the rest of your life with.

Oooooppppsssss!!!! Don't forget to love yourself first before giving your love to that special someone, it is the only way that you can love unconditionally.. ^___^

#LoveLikeYou'veNeverBeenhurt